learned from my children's karate classes that the elbow is the
strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it,
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back
tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like
crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has
Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and it jolted
me. It was given by an amazing man, Pat Malone, who has been a
body guard for famous figures like Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester
Stallone. He works for the FBI, and teaches police officers and
Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat.
man has seen it all, and knows a lot. He focused his teachings to
AVOID BEING THE VICTIM OF A VIOLENT CRIME.
He gave us some statistics about how much the occurrences of
random violence have escalated over the recent years, and it's
terrible. Something like 99% of us will be exposed to, or become
a victim of a violent crime. Here are some of the most important
points that I got out of his presentation:
(1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of
(a.) Lack of Awareness-You
know where you are & what's going on around you.
(b.) Body Language-Keep your head up, swing your arms, stand
(c.) Wrong Place/Wrong Time-DON'T
walk alone in an alley, or drive in a
bad neighborhood at night.
(2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,
eating, working, etc, and just sit (doing their checkbook, or
making a list, etc).
DON'T DO THIS!
predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity
for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and
tell you where to go.
SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
(a.) A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot,
or parking garage: Be aware: look around you, look into your car,
at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
(b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from
the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by
pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get
into their cars.
(c.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your
vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the
seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or
work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.
IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
(Better paranoid than dead.)
take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible
places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
(a.) Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already on
there. (Of course bad men don't always look bad).
(b.) Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator, be near
the front, by the doors, ready to get off or on.
(c.) If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and the
Boogie Man gets on the 22nd, get off when he gets on.
(4) If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,
(a.) Police make only 4 of 10 shots when they are in range of
This is due to stress.
(b.) The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100
times. And even then, it most likely
be a vital organ. RUN!
(5.) As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic:
It may get you raped, or killed.
(a.) Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good looking,
well-educated man, who
played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a
cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or
with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
(b.) Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who came out
of the mall and was walking to her car when she noticed 2 older
ladies in front of her. Then she saw a police car come towards
her with cops who said hello. She also noticed that all 8
handicap spots in the area were empty. As she neared her car she
saw a man a few rows over calling to her for help. He wanted her
to close his passenger side door. He was sitting in the driver's
side, and said he was handicapped. He continued calling, until
she turned and headed back to the mall, and then he began cursing
at her. In the meantime, she wondered why he didn't ask the 2
older ladies, or the policeman for help, and why he was not parked
in any of the empty handicap spots. As she got back to the mall,
two male friends of hers were exiting, and as she told them the
story, and turned to point at the car, the man was getting out of
the back seat into the front, and the car sped away.
GET CAUGHT IN THIS TRAP.
(6.). Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent
If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is
taking you to an abandoned area,
LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA.
If you are driving, react immediately in the situation, and crash
your car while still going 5 mph. If he's driving, find the right
time, and stick your fingers in his eyes. He must watch the road,
so choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge him. It is your ONLY
defense. While he is in shock,
(This sounds gross, but the alternative is your fault if you do
Don't go along with him: run, if you are able:
EVER GIVE UP!
want to get to a crime scene.
(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the
street or in dark areas.
(a.) There are packages for $19.95 a month that allow you to
program only 911 into the dialing out program. (This is an
alternative for parents who say it is too expensive for their kids
to have a cell phone.)
Make every effort to avoid this by
keeping your car in good working order.
(a.) If your car breaks down:
LOCK YOUR DOORS.
You better have a cell phone to call for help.
(b). If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you) keep a
blanket, warm clothes, a pair of boots, and a flashlight in your
car always, for emergencies.
(c.) If it's noon on a business day, you may want to put your
hazards on and walk to safety.
(d.) If it's 2 AM, put on your warm clothes, and walk to a
lighted area. You are a perfect target if you are sitting in your
car when it's broken down. Predators search the highways for easy
targets like you.
(e.) If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in
your warm clothes) and go to some bushes, or some area AWAY from
your vehicles. It will be cold, and uncomfortable, but you
want to stay in your car, and there are no psycho bogeymen waiting
in the bushes who knew you were going to break down there and
(10.) Physical defenses that we can use against the violent
the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there
It may be your, only window of opportunity.
(b.) The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where
HAVE THE STRENGTH
to cut off his breath.
(c.) The last place is the
Everyone's knees are very vulnerable, and a swift kick here will
take anyone down.
-- A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these
things right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will
only anger the individual, and that anger will be
OUT ON YOU.
I'm not saying don't attempt them (it may be your only hope), but
be forceful when you do.
(11.) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't
be) and you find him following/chasing you:
and not "help". People don't want to get involved when people yell
"help", but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy.
(c.) Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it,
like Ring Around the Rosie. This may sound silly, but over the
years, 5 women have told Pat Malone that this
(d.) Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under
there, there are tons of things to hold on to, and he will not be
able to get you out and will not come under for you (most likely).
Usually they give up by this point. The catch here is that
MUST PRACTICE GETTING UNDER THE CAR.
You must have a plan (he will have one); know if you will be going
on your back, front, from the side or back of the car. It must be
(12.) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a
in any type of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat
knew Danielle, who was a girl that just died from being shot
point-blank by some kids while she was closing at the local gas
station. He talked with her the night before she died, and asked
whether it ever scared her to close alone. She said yes, but
said, "I'll be alright, Pat. I'll be alright." She wasn't.
Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in
our fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later. Pat
Malone said, again and again, that the women who die
from violent crimes expected to go to bed tonight, and get up
tomorrow. No one expects it, but we must be prepared and be
aware so that we
PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT HARD! HAVE A PLAN!
was approached yesterday afternoon around 3:30pm in a Walmart
parking lot by two males, asking what kind of perfume I was
Then they asked if I'd like to sample some fabulous scent they
were willing to sell me at a very reasonable rate. I probably
would have agreed had I not received an email some weeks ago,
warning of a "wanna smell this neat perfume?" scam.
The men continued to stand between parked cars, I guess to wait
for someone else to hit on. I stopped a lady going towards them,
pointed at them, and told her about how I was sent an e-mail at
work about someone walking up to you at the malls or in parking
lots, and asking you to
that they are selling at a cheap price.
NOT PERFUME - IT IS ETHER!
When you sniff it, you'll pass out. And they'll take your wallet,
your valuables, and heaven knows what else. If it were not for
this e-mail, I probably would have sniffed the "perfume." But
thanks to the generosity of an emailing friend, I was spared
whatever might have happened to me. I wanted to do the same for
Contributed by Tracy Lusk.
PASS THIS ALONG TO ALL YOUR WOMEN FRIENDS, AND PLEASE BE ALERT,
Thought I would pass this
along as it is valuable information for all of
us who sometimes travel alone and are not aware of #77 on your
cell phone. Pass along to your daughters, daughters-in-law,
others. This is an actual true story and not one of those
Internet stories that are passed on and on. This actually
happened to one of my dearest new friend's daughter. Her
daughter, Lauren, is 19 years old and a sophomore in college.
This happened to her over the Christmas/New Year's holiday break.
It was the Saturday before New Year's and it was about 1 pm in the
afternoon. Lauren was driving from here (Winchester, Va.) to
friend in Warrenton. For those of you who are familiar with the
she was taking Rt. 50 East towards Middleburg and then was going
to cut over to I-66 via Rt.17. Those of you who aren't familiar
with this area, Rt. 50 East is a main road (55 mph and two lanes
each side with a big median separating East/West lanes), but is
somewhat secluded, known for it's big horse farms and beautiful
country estates. Lauren was actually following behind a state
police car shortly after she left Winchester and was going just
over 65 mph since she was following behind him. An
police car pulled up behind her and put his lights on. My friend
and her husband have 4 children (high school and college age) and
have always told them never to pull over for an unmarked car on
the side of the road, but rather wait until they get to a gas
station, etc. So Lauren actually listened to her parents advice,
and promptly called #77 on her cell phone to tell the
dispatcher that she would not pull over right away. She proceeded
to tell the dispatcher that there were 2 police cars, one unmarked
behind her and one marked in front of her.
The dispatcher checked to confirm that police cars where she
was. There wasn't and she was connected to the policeman in front
of her. He told her to keep driving, remain calm and that he had
back-up already on the way.
Ten minutes later, 4 police cars surrounded her and the unmarked
behind her. One policeman went to her side and the others the car
behind. They pulled the guy from the car and tackled him to the
ground ... the man was a convicted rapist and wanted for other
Thank God Lauren listened to her parents! She was shaken up, but
I never knew that bit of advice, but especially for a woman alone
in a car, you should NEVER
pull over for an unmarked car in a secluded area.
In fact, even a marked car after dark should follow you to a
area. Apparently police have to respect your right to keep going
to a "safe" place. You obviously need to make some signals that
you acknowledge them (i.e. put on your hazard lights) or call #77
like Lauren did.
I am so thankful that my friend was sitting at our book club
meeting telling us this scary story, rather than us at her house
consoling her had something tragic occurred! Be safe and pass
this on to your friends.
Awareness is everything!
Contributed by Janell Threat
SUBJECT: JURY DUTY SCAM
This has been
verified by the FBI .
Please pass this on to everyone in your email address book. It
is spreading fast so be prepared should you get this call. Most
of us take those summons for jury duty seriously a new and ominous
kind of fraud has surfaced.
The caller claims to be a jury coordinator.
If you protest that you never received a summons for jury duty, the
scammer asks you for your Social Security number and date of birth so
he or she can verify the information and cancel the arrest warrant.
Give out any of this information and bingo, your identity was just
The fraud has been reported so far in 11 states, including Oklahoma ,
Illinois , and Colorado . This (swindle) is particularly
insidious because they use intimidation over the phone to try to bully
people into giving information
by pretending they are with the court system. The FBI and the
Federal Court System have issued nationwide alerts on their web sites,
warning consumers about the fraud.
Snopes site: says this is real fraud.
NEW GANG INITIATION
A woman stopped at a pay-at-the-pump gas
station to get gas. Once she filled her gas tank and after paying at
the pump and starting to leave, the voice of the attendant
inside came over the speaker. He told her that something
happened with her card and that she needed to come inside to pay. The
lady was confused because the transaction showed complete and
approved. She relayed that to him and was getting ready to leave but
the attendant, once again, urged her to come in to pay or there'd be
trouble. She proceeded to go inside and started arguing with the
attendant about his threat. He told her to calm down and listen
He said that while she was pumping gas, a guy slipped into the back
seat of her car on the other side and the attendant had already
called the police. She became frightened and looked out in time
to see her car door open and the guy slip out. The report is that the
new gang initiation thing is to bring back a woman and/or her car..
One way they are doing this is crawling under women's cars
while they're pumping gas or at grocery stores in the
nighttime. The other way is slipping into unattended cars and
kidnapping the women.
Please pass this on to other women, young and old alike. Be extra
careful going to and from your car at night. If at all possible,
don't go alone!
This is real!!
1. ALWAYS lock your car doors, even if you're gone for just a second!
2. Check underneath your car when approaching it for reentry, and
check in the back before getting in.
3. Always be aware of your surroundings and of other individuals in
your general vicinity, particularly at night!
AND GUYS...YOU TELL ANY WOMEN YOU KNOW ABOUT THIS.
Thanks, Barbara Baker, Secretary Directorate of Training U.S. Army
Military Police School .
BEWARE OF PAPER
ON THE BACK WINDOW OF YOUR VEHICLE -
NEW WAY TO DO CAR
You walk across the parking lot, unlock your car and get inside.
You start the engine and shift into Reverse. When you look into
the rearview mirror to back out of your parking space, you notice a
piece of paper stuck to the middle of the rear window. So, you shift
into Park, unlock your doors, and jump out of your car to remove that
paper (or whatever it is) that is obstructing your view. When
you reach the back of your car, that is when the car jackers appear
out of nowhere, jump into your car and take off. They
practically mow you down as they speed off in your car. And
guess what, ladies? I bet your purse is still in the car.
So now the car jacker has your car, your home address, your money, and
your keys. Your home and your whole identity are now compromised!
If you see a piece of paper stuck to your back window, just drive
away. Remove the paper later. And be thankful that you read this
A purse contains all kinds of personal information and identification
documents, and you certainly do
this to fall into the wrong hands.
Lieutenant Tony Bartolome, Bureau of Investigations, Florida Highway
Patrol, PO. Box 593527 Orlando , FL 32859
Know what money you are carrying. You will see why as you read.
Be sure every woman is aware of this M.O. Share it with your wife and
daughters. This was the first I have heard of a scheme like
this. I wanted to pass it along. Be safe! Something very serious
to pay attention to. Criminals are coming up with craftier, less
threatening methods of attack, so we have to be extra cautious.
Read on: I live in Alexandria, VA, but I often work in
Lafayette, LA, staying with friends when I'm there. As you know
from America's Most Wanted TV program, as well as the news media,
there is a serial killer in the Lafayette area. I just want to let you
know about an "incident" that happened to me a few weeks ago, and
could have been deadly. At first I didn't go to the police or anyone
with it because I didn't realize how serious this encounter was. But
since I work in a jail and I told a few people about it, it wasn't
long before I was paraded into Internal Affairs to tell them my
story. I stopped at the Exxon station to get gas. I got $10 gas and a
Diet Coke. I took into the store two $5 bills and one $1 bill (just
enough to get my stuff).
As I pulled away from the store, a man
approached my truck from the back side of the store (an unlit area).
He was an "approachable-looking" man (clean cut, clean shaven,
dressed well, etc.). He walked up to my window and knocked. Since I'm
very paranoid and "always looking for the rapist or killer," I didn't
open the window. I just asked what he wanted. He raised a $5 bill to
my window and said, "You dropped this." Since I knew I had gone into
the store with a certain amount of money, I knew I didn't drop
it. When I told him it wasn't mine, he began hitting the window and
door, screaming at me to open my door, and insisting that I had
dropped the money! At that point, I just drove away as fast as I
After talking to the Internal Affairs Department and
describing the man I saw, and the way he escalated from calm and
polite to angry and volatile...it was determined that I could have
possibly encountered the serial killer myself. Up to this point, it
had been unclear as to how he had gained access to his victims, since
there has been no evidence of forced entry into victim's homes, cars,
etc. And the fact that he has been attacking in the daytime, when
women are less likely to have their guard up, means he is pretty
BOLD. So think about it... what gesture is nicer than returning money
to someone that dropped it????? How many times would you have opened
your window (or door) to get your money and say thank you.... because
if the person is kind enough to return something to you, then he
can't really be a threat....can he????
Please be cautious! This might
not have been the serial killer...but anyone that gets that angry over
someone not accepting money from them can't have honorable
intentions. The most important thing to note is that his reaction was
NOT WHAT I EXPECTED! A total surprise! But what might have happened if
I had opened my door? I shudder to think! Forward this to everyone
you know... maybe they can be as fortunate as I was!
P.S. Ladies: Really DO forward this to EVERYONE you know. Even if this man wasn't
a serial killer, he looked nice, he seemed polite, and appeared to be
doing an act of kindness. But HE WAS A VICIOUS INDIVIDUAL!!